I can sense the hesitancy in many of my friends, who are cautious about what they say in group chats, while I tend to be more freewheeling. None of us are public figures, but we all work desk jobs in fields I’d consider liberal (law, govt, non-profit). If my group chats were ever leaked to my coworkers, I’d resign immediately and never show up again. I hate that we live in a world where people feel the need to self-censor even in private conversations among friends. It is sad.
Ultimately if you are a public figure, or someone important enough, you need to accept that a price of that is that your private acts, whether a taste for S&M or goober edgelordism, may go public. My suggestion would be to ask yourself if you would stand by your acts if they would go public, like Mr. Mosley.
Anyway, I think the only really offensive part of this whole thing was what these self conscious Nietzschean Übermensch looked like.
My written personality is about the same as my IRL one, but I've always been pretty unabashed about things and like friction in most relationships so I toss things out to the wrong people all the time, sometimes in jest sometimes not. I do know how to play nice though, especially at work the larger the group the less I'll say, the longer I've worked at where I'm at now the more I don't trust the newer people.
Now some of my texts threads with longtime friends could make us all look like an insane person because we like to toss off quotes that most aren't going to get such as "one night I'm going to come to you in your house wherever your sleeping and I'm going to cut your throat", you drop that one on someone who doesn't get it and it's pretty fun. After a few moments of awkward silence buddy "uh that's a quote from There will be Blood." Me "so it doesn't mean I'm not going to do it"... "he's joking"... "no I'm not"...
I’m a lot freer than I’ve ever been. But I’m retired! Seriously I say what’s on my mind in a friendly way not meaning to insult anyone. But if they’re assholes, I don’t hesitate to respond in kind. Of course there were many years in the rear view mirror where I couldn’t do that.
I can sense the hesitancy in many of my friends, who are cautious about what they say in group chats, while I tend to be more freewheeling. None of us are public figures, but we all work desk jobs in fields I’d consider liberal (law, govt, non-profit). If my group chats were ever leaked to my coworkers, I’d resign immediately and never show up again. I hate that we live in a world where people feel the need to self-censor even in private conversations among friends. It is sad.
“There’s no good way to say, “I love you, and you’re smart, but I don’t know how to deal with your bog standard coastal millennial political takes.””
This line speaks so loudly to me.
Is this any different then say this? (https://www.motortrend.com/news/f1s-max-mosley-wins-civil-suit-awarded-119000-following-sex-scandal-1625).
Ultimately if you are a public figure, or someone important enough, you need to accept that a price of that is that your private acts, whether a taste for S&M or goober edgelordism, may go public. My suggestion would be to ask yourself if you would stand by your acts if they would go public, like Mr. Mosley.
Anyway, I think the only really offensive part of this whole thing was what these self conscious Nietzschean Übermensch looked like.
My written personality is about the same as my IRL one, but I've always been pretty unabashed about things and like friction in most relationships so I toss things out to the wrong people all the time, sometimes in jest sometimes not. I do know how to play nice though, especially at work the larger the group the less I'll say, the longer I've worked at where I'm at now the more I don't trust the newer people.
Now some of my texts threads with longtime friends could make us all look like an insane person because we like to toss off quotes that most aren't going to get such as "one night I'm going to come to you in your house wherever your sleeping and I'm going to cut your throat", you drop that one on someone who doesn't get it and it's pretty fun. After a few moments of awkward silence buddy "uh that's a quote from There will be Blood." Me "so it doesn't mean I'm not going to do it"... "he's joking"... "no I'm not"...
Seems like the best approach is to never communicate with anyone older than your oldest kid under any circumstances.
I've never met anyone who writes in a GC anything like those republicans did (and do) so I can't relate.
How do know what everyone you meet is writing in their group chats?
I’m a lot freer than I’ve ever been. But I’m retired! Seriously I say what’s on my mind in a friendly way not meaning to insult anyone. But if they’re assholes, I don’t hesitate to respond in kind. Of course there were many years in the rear view mirror where I couldn’t do that.